Become genuinely interested in other people.
Show interest in people because they are most interested in themselves.
Remember their birthdays, their hobbies, and other important details. People love your company once you start showing interest in them.
Let me give you a simple example to show that people are most interested in themselves. Lets say, you are in a group photograph. If the photograph is given to you, whose picture do you like to see first? Its obvious – you want to find out how you look in the picture, assuming that your girl friend/boy friend is not present in the picture. :-)
Smile – its the second best thing you can do with your lips. Now, don't ask me what the first best thing is :-).
Actions speak louder than words and a smile says, 'I like you. You make me happy. Glad to see you'. There are many such positive facets of a genuine smile.
Greet others with smile and enthusiasm. No matter which part of the world you go to, smile begets smile.
Your smile is a messenger of your goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.
Smiling can be over the telephone also. You may be irritated by a series of customer care calls, you may even want to shout at them, but you might not do that with a caller, who maintains smile throughout the conversation; at least you would be humble in replying to him. That's the power of smile. :-))
- Why do you think small kids get a lot of attention from elders. Its mainly because of their genuine smile, that brings joy and happiness.
Remember that a person's name - to that person - is the sweetest and the most important sound in any language.
Name sets the individual apart; pronouncing a person's name correctly, gives him the feel of recognition among others.
The information we are imparting or the request we are making, takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual.
Nowadays, we greet people casually. We simply say 'hi, how are you? Hi, how do you do?; instead, greet them using their name – say 'hi rakesh, how are you'. It surely makes a difference.
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
When in conversation, give your exclusive attention to others.
Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their problems than they are in you and your problems.
To be an interesting personality, be interested in others, urge others to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
Remember that a person's head-ache or stomach-ache means more to him than dengue or bird flue in any part of the world.
Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
Find the interests of others and talk about those things.
If you know nothing of their interests, ask intelligent questions.
Talking in terms of the other person's interests pays off for both parties.
Everyone who was ever a guest of Theodore Roosevelt was astonished at the range and diversity of his knowledge. Whether his visitor was an artist, a sportsman or a politician or any other person, the 26th American President knew what he had to say. Whenever Roosevelt expected a visitor, he sat up late the night before, reading up the subjects in which his guests would be interested in. Are you already thinking of using this trick?? I already thought of doing so. :-)
Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
People yearn to feel important and appreciated.
Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.
Praise others’ strengths and they’ll strive to reinforce your opinion. Remember,
every human being you meet is superior to you in some way or the other. Let him/her know of it; they will be more than happy to listen to you.
If you were patient enough to read till this point, please read few more lines - my intention of coming up with this post.
Human beings learn a lot by doing things. If you desire to master the principles which were mentioned just now, please do something about them. Try to apply these principles at every opportunity you get in your day-to-day life. I am sure you will definitely reap the benefits.
